|Posted by kerf on June 13, 2017 at 10:50 PM|
ENCOURAGEMENT TO FOLLOW YOUR DREAM: but to do that you have to make sure your dream pays your rent
by Kerin Freeman
Not everyone who does well at school succeeds, and a number of people who fare badly in their early years go on to become great achievers. The education system overloads a child with so many things for which they have no talent or inclination for - it does not allow children to focus early on on their strengths. Nine times out of ten, wrong asumptions are drawn from a child's performance at school. There is nothing wrong with these children, they are simply on a slower timetable.
Setbacks in early life can teach invaluable lessons. Late achievers can cope with disappointments and failure much better because they are well acquainted with them. A late start in one's career can have a silver lining. Time spent on the sidelines can mature you.
Late achievers are not people who slowly emerge from mediocrity. In most cases the potential is there, just lying beneath the surface. These men and women, until later in their lives, were denied the right environment that could foster their abilities which would have enabled them to bloom. Those special qualities just did not fit into the system.
My teacher told me I had nothing but clay in my head. I took his remark as a blessing and became a sculptor - Mani Nagappa
Like some flowers, these qualities need more time to blossom and when they do, they outshine all others, when all the other flowers in the garden have shrivelled up and died. Some people go up like rockets and come down like sticks. There is no magical age at which excellence emerges. Charles Dickens was 24 when he began writing 'The Pickwick Papers', only 25 when he wrote 'Oliver Twist'. Isaac Newton was also 24 when he formulated the law of gravity. At the other end of the scale, Tennyson was 80 when he wrote 'Crossing the Bar' and Michelangelo was doing his best work at the age of 87. Morgan Freeman was first nominated for an Oscar at 50, and Mary Wellesley, an English novelist, published her first novel at 70.
Rather than academic achievement, good looks or relationships, a positive mental attitude is the single most ingredient to personal excellence. The power of positive thinking is a valuable key to you achieving your full potential.
Excellence, of course, will always be relative to each individual and, as there is no universal dream, no all-embracing formula that can be written; it can only be defined as the maximising of potential or being the best you can possibly be. To be sure of that you need to do two things: 1) make a commitment to exceed all your previous achievements - if only by a minimal amount. This could be one of the most meaningful decisions you will ever make. From that moment on you will try to control life by what you think and decide, rather than by being controlled by what life throws at you. 2) you must decide what exactly you want from life. This can be a difficult decision, influenced by many conflicting factors, such as power, wealth, family, leisure, spiritual matters, vocation or a meaningful career.
Very few of us ever get what we 'want' out of life, but the majority of us get what we 'expect' or 'think'. If someone else has what you want it is probably because they wanted it more than you. A burning desire, ambition or vision drove them to action, and by using what resources they had available it inflamed their self-belief. Very often successful people are not extraordinary; rather they just did that extra something that was a little extraordinary.
We can dream where we are going on our holiday, so why not with our future - it is never too late in life to do so. Most successful businesses that are started by people are over 40. At school and thereafter, it seems the world of imagination is banned as somewhat childish.
To maximise your potential you need to combine the educated and logical left brain hemisphere with the creative right brain hemisphere. Through regular employment of creative visualisation, you can not only excite your self-concept but you can also incite the kind of action that leads to the desire, and desire, in turn, leads to action that leads to the expectation that can lead to the desired conclusion. If you can creatively visualise the equivalent of the last 10 minutes of your project or goal, and experience the success, then the challenges and hurdles along the way will lose some of their drama and difficulty too.
Your self-concept can be limiting and full of self doubts. This consists of three components: inherited attributes, acquired attributes and attitude. No amount of study, tuition, good looks and so on can increase that. Studies have shown that 85% of the self-concept is attributable to attitude, and attitude can be adjusted by thinking. Every successful person has an abundance of positive mental attitude. Quality thoughts and thinking generate enthusiasm, and enthusiasm flows from one mind to another and affects how others perceive you. So, in pursuit of your own personal excellence, you become a motivator for those around you.
Women's stories are tied to the stories of others, typically husbands and children, and family. In addition, many married women reported fragmented educational and career patterns as a result of their husband's career movements. For women who started late, many may have been in academia for only a decade or so by the time they reach their fifties. Making their mark is still an issue. Thus, there is need to make a distinction between chronological age and professional age. Reputations are made through cultural constructs, informal networks of colleagues, friends, critics and competitors. That takes time to build.
Older people in the leading industrialised nations now contribute more significantly to family income and work than is generally know. The image of older people as frail, unproductive and dependent on others is grossly exaggerated. Many people only get their creative juices flowing later in life. A considerable number of lifelong artists continue to work - and then hit their peak creatively - late in life.
George Elliot was right - if you are good at something and you have a passion for it, then it is really never too late to do something about it.